"Growing up in the Marine Corps came with a lot of sacrifices. Nine moves
in 17 years. Bouncing between schools, adjusting to yet another new
neighborhood, making new friends and only to have to give it all up in
two or three years. Making new friends every time we moved was the
hardest for me. I was the typical shy, smart kid. When kids wanted to
talk to me it was generally because they needed help with school work. I
often ate lunch alone and would draw or read until next period. When we
moved to Glenview, IL and I started high school, I decided to graduate a
year early. I knew we would likely move in three years and hated the
idea of starting over my senior year at a new school."
"So
I studied and worked at the school library during my lunch period for
extra credit. I graduated in 2005 and just as I thought, we were due to
move. Just a few months after graduation we moved to Beaufort and that
was 11 years ago now. I went to USCB and earned my business degree. I
barely made it through college. Traveling between the two campuses, long
times between classes and I worked. It was incredibly overwhelming.
After college I went into retail management and had great success there.
I was the department/store flipper. If a department or store was
struggling I was pulled in to help turn it around. I received a lot of
praise and awards during this time. Even with all of my career success, I
really struggled with being happy and confident in who I was and what I
brought to the table. Surely all of the nice things being said by my
bosses, my customers and all of the positive things I had received were
just luck or because they were being nice to me, I had a terrible time
accepting that I worked hard for what I had. It wasn't people feeling
bad for me. I EARNED those things. It really wasn't until maybe 2 or 3
years ago that I really believed that."
"Fast
forward a few years and I made a transition from retail management to
personal training, which was completely by accident. I wasn't an
athlete. I had never ran a mile. This had brought on a fresh sense of
self doubt. I studied like crazy and was fortunate to have met someone
who worked at a community fitness facility that needed extra help. I
worked at that club, and several other clubs, learning as much as I
could from other personal trainers I admired and the business owners. I
learned how to help people move more efficiently, reduce pain levels and
improve their quality of life. Though I didn't realize it at the time,
my clients helped me as much as I helped them."
"Over
the last four years I've worked so hard to get to the point where I run
my own business. This is where it has all come full circle for me and I
can see with such clarity. I didn't have a lot of friends growing up
but I had my family. Because of them I am unshakable. I had fears and
doubts about my worth and what I could contribute to the world. My
clients remind me all the time how much better they feel because of our
work together. Because of them, I am confident and know what I bring to
the table. I wasn't an athlete growing up but because I worked hard at
it and now I am strong."
"I'm 28 and I'm just
now getting to the point where I breathe easy. The fears and doubts of
inadequacy are so far now. That isn't to say that they don't pop up
periodically but now I have all of these wonderful people and
experiences to remind me it's just a passing moment. For all of the
women in my life, I feverishly hope that you, no matter your age,
ethnicity, religion, race or orientation, learn to be unshakable. That
you learn to feel confident. Not just in your skin, but in your soul. I
hope you know that you bring so much more to the table than just your
looks. That strength comes in many forms and you are so strong. I hope
that you find a way to put aside your fears and doubts so you can use
the fierceness I see in you and use it for whatever you are passionate
about. Lastly, I hope that we all lift each other up and pull each other
forward. It's because of the people in my life that have lifted me up,
pulled and pushed me forward, that I have grown to be the woman I am
today. If we all managed to do that for each other, I think the world
would be a pretty remarkable place."
Beautiful photos by The 2654 Project, Bluffton, SC
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